Why do Women Choose the Wrong Man? 3

Why Do Women Choose The Wrong Man?
Part 3 - Verbally Abusive Father, and the Mentally, Emotionally Abusive Father

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I am discussing these types of negative fathers together, since the outcome for women is much the same. A father who is verbally abusive is usually mentally and emotionally abusive, too. How can someone cut you down verbally and not affect you mentally and emotionally? Also, this kind of abuse wounds the spirit within you. Again, the spirit cannot heal without Jesus Christ. You can try all the self-help books, tapes, videos and seminars in the world. But there is really only one answer. Those things might help you on the surface for a short time, but in the long run all the negative behaviors and thoughts will come out. They are always lurking in the background waiting for you to become vulnerable. And, besides, even if you exercised incredible self-control there is always the question of your eternal soul!

An abusive father of the kind described above destroys self-esteem. He makes his family feel small and insignificant in order to make himself feel more powerful and in control. You can be sure that he came from an abusive home himself, which is usually true of all of the negative fathers. Again, the sins of the fathers….

You can also be sure this is a very unhappy man, a man who is determined that no one else will be happy either. He will do and say anything he can to wear you down and make you too weak to stand up to him. And, woe to you if you did, because this kind of father can become physically abusive in an instant!

Do you feel you have no value? Have your relationships been with men who are mean to you and make you feel worthless? Are those men ones who are selfish and want their own way with no regard for your feelings? Are they the kind of man who will strike you without warning? Have you struggled with fear and all sorts of phobias your whole life? (The other kinds of abuse can cause these symptoms, too.) Have the men you are with left you, one after the other, for another woman? Do you not care about your appearance? Have you let yourself go since no one would want you anyway? (Sexually abused women often do this to keep from being attractive to men, it is often sub-conscious)

Now, take some time and read over Psalm 139. Think about what it means. Think about how He formed you from nothing. Think about how He knew you before you were created and knew even the number of days you would live. Consider His unending love for you. Jesus loves you, too, so much so that He died a horrible death on the cross. God loves you so much that He resurrected Jesus and caused a controversy that rages on til this day!
You can be healed from the hurts of the past. You can regain your self-esteem. You can do it in the Name of Jesus! It is the only way! It is the best way!

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PSALM 139:
1 O LORD, You have searched me and known me.
2 You know my sitting down and my rising up; You understand my thought afar off.
3 You comprehend my path and my lying down, And are acquainted with all my ways.
4 For there is not a word on my tongue, But behold, O Lord, You know it altogether.
5 You have hedged me behind and before, And laid Your hand upon me.
6 Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; It is high, I cannot attain it.
7 Where can I go from Your Spirit? Or where can I flee from Your presence?
8 If I ascend into heaven, You are there; If I make my bed in hell, behold, You are there.
9 If I take the wings of the morning, And dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea,
10 Even there Your hand shall lead me, And Your right hand shall hold me.
11 If I say, "Surely the darkness shall fall on me,'' Even the night shall be light about me;
12 Indeed, the darkness shall not hide from You, But the night shines as the day; The darkness and the light are both alike to You.
13 For You have formed my inward parts; You have covered me in my mother's womb.
14 I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well.
15 My frame was not hidden from You, When I was made in secret, And skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book they all were written, The days fashioned for me, When as yet there were none of them.
17 How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God! How great is the sum of them!
18 If I should count them, they would be more in number than the sand; When I awake, I am still with You.
19 Oh, that You would slay the wicked, O God! Depart from me, therefore, you bloodthirsty men.
20 For they speak against You wickedly; Your enemies take Your name in vain.
21 Do I not hate them, O Lord, who hate You? And do I not loathe those who rise up against You?
22 I hate them with perfect hatred; I count them my enemies.
23 Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me, and know my anxieties;
24 And see if there is any wicked way in me, And lead me in the way everlasting.

NKJ Psalms 139:1-24

And, God loves you so much He did this for you:

NKJ John 3:16 "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.

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